Balancing physics, chemistry, and biology of a relationship

If we analyze the dynamics of any relationship we will find they do involve elements of physics, chemistry, and biology. I don't mean that they literally involve basic concepts from these branches of science, but any relationship, especially our relationship with our partner does involve important aspects of these three branches of science.

Let's first take chemistry, we need to have compatibility in any relationship, especially with our partner. Without compatibility, it's tough to live happily together. Imagine a relationship where people argue or fight continuously because they are not compatible with each other. Compatibility also doesn't mean you need to be very similar to each other or your things have to match on every point. People can be very different and still complement each other very well. This is why chemistry becomes important, we all have certain traits and characteristics that we value or want to preserve, find a person who values them, and who gives you enough space and freedom to be yourself. You want to complement each other not to complete each other. Every person is complete, we don't need anyone else to complete ourselves, we need someone who can understand us and support us when needed. When two people make they should form a strong bond, not an explosive reaction. Only strong bonds survive tough conditions and make that relationship long-lasting, look for such strong bonds. 

Next is physics. There are physical aspects to our relationships. This is an ignored and taboo subject in most of the societies. People are not very open to talking about the physical aspects of the couple's relationship, but it is as important as any other aspect of the relationship. This aspect requires a lot of compassion, love, care, as well as respect. Consent should not be taken for granted and the wishes of each other should be respected to have a healthy physical relationship. Ignoring this aspect of the relationship could have a serious effect on other aspects of the relationship. A lack of good physics could spoil the good chemistry.

Lastly, biology, which many times we can control and many times we can't. This part requires some care, precaution, and knowledge. Without properly knowing the biological consequences of our actions, it is easy to make mistakes and then regret them. Some mistakes are correctable because of the help of medical science, but this is not the case always. It is better to be safe than sorry and this is true at every stage of the relationship. I am not just talking about the biological aspects of sexual behavior, but also about the effects of negligence towards personal health. Unhealthy habits are bound to show their effects at some stage, it is always better to be aware of our own personal health challenges and work to mitigate any health-related issues. Biology could affect the physics of a relationship and they both together could affect the chemistry of a relationship to weaken the bond.

Striking the balance between all three aspects of a relationship is not easy, people often struggle with one aspect or another. Sometimes they get the chemistry right but mess up with physics and biology, and sometimes it's the other way around. There is no right or wrong formula, every couple has to come up with what works best for them. This requires the participation of both partners as unilateral solutions rarely work. Also, this is a continuous and never-ending process, it continues as long as that relationship exists, and we need to tune the balance at every stage of life. This is always a work in progress, but very important work. Please don't neglect it.

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Stop spreading chemophobia

Chemophobia is on the rise all over the world, there is a total misunderstanding about the role and effect of chemicals in our lives. Misleading marketing gimmicks like 'all-natural' or 'chemical-free,' are used very casually. The major problem with these tag lines is that not only they are devoid of any truth, but they create wrong impressions about chemicals in general. The use of such phrases creates a perception in the consumer's mind that consuming any 'chemical' is harmful to their health and that products of these so-called 'chemical free' brands don't contain any chemicals. To a large extent, all this propaganda and advertisement is responsible for creating irrational fear towards chemicals and creating a villainous image of industries dealing with chemicals. But in reality, chemicals are an integral part of our day-to-day lives. Without chemicals we don't even exist, chemical compounds called 'amino acids' are basic building blocks of our body, they are essential for our existence. Somehow the buzzword 'chemical free' is becoming the new standard for safety standards of any product we use. This whole propaganda is very misleading and I am amazed that even some scientists are contributing to popularizing this myth that "chemical-free" means safe. In its true sense, nothing is chemical-free, even water is a chemical. The air that we breathe is a mixture of different gases with nitrogen and oxygen as its major components. It is a misnomer to call anything 'chemical-free.' 

One can definitely classify chemicals as safe chemicals and harmful chemicals. There are synthetically made and naturally available chemicals. Synthetic doesn't always mean harmful and natural doesn't always mean safe. Many useful naturally available chemicals are synthesized in the laboratory, as many times it is not possible to get the required quantity from natural resources. So, even some chemicals with natural origin are produced in labs by using synthetic methods for commercial use and hence can be called natural in origin but synthetic by production. There are many natural chemicals that we consume daily, like water, air, vitamins, carbohydrates, and sugars. These are perfectly safe and useful chemicals for our bodies if consumed in the right quantities. At the same time, there are many synthetic chemicals in the form of medicines that we consume as per requirement, they all help us to fight against some life-threatening conditions. Some synthetic compounds like painkillers also help to overcome pain or we use some chemicals as cosmetics. Even useful chemicals like medicines should be taken in prescribed doses as overconsumption can create some serious problems. The fact is, even medicines that are supposed to be lifesavers can be lethal if overdosed or consumed without need. Overdose of anything can create problems for us. If we eat only one type of food in excess it can cause problems to our health, in most cases it is the dose that is the deciding factor. There are various chemical products like plastics, paints, polymers, etc. which we use in our day-to-day lives. Many people don't even have a clue about the chemical composition of these products but still, most of us use it. Many of these products have become an integral part of our lives. If we look around, we can easily notice that chemicals are present everywhere around us. Our lives are heavily dependent on them. I fail to understand the real purpose behind this organized effort to spread extreme aversion against chemicals. This is not only misleading but also a wrong thing to do as far as public health is concerned. Why don't all concerned companies and agencies try to educate people about different types of chemicals and their effects on human health rather than trying to demonize all chemicals? Chemophobia is misleading and doesn't serve any purpose.

Prof. Michelle Francl has rightly expressed the effect of this chemophobic culture in her quote, "Chemical has become a synonym for something artificial, adulterated, hazardous, or toxic." Actually, we should strive to get a clear understanding of hazardous and nonhazardous chemicals and their effects on our lives. I understand that it may not be an easy task for everyone, but that is why it is necessary to spread more awareness about the different types of chemicals we use. We can make use of new technologies and social platforms to spread this public awareness. It is wrong to spread irrational fear about all chemicals. I don't know who came up with misleading terms like 'chemical free' or 'all natural' for processed food products. Let's get educated about the chemicals and try to make well-informed decisions, this is good for us as well as all chemical companies.

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