Showing posts with label Career. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Career. Show all posts

Saturday, December 21, 2019

Finding your passion is not easy

"Chase your dreams" or "pursue your passion" are cliches that are used quite routinely. They are based on an important assumption that people already know what is their passion or that people have only one dream to chase. However, the situation is not that simple for most people. Often, it is not easy for most people to decide what is their real passion or which dream they should chase. This is the reason we see many people enrolled in courses and chasing degrees for which they have to study subjects they utterly dislike or hate just because someone told them that it would provide them a well-paying stable job. We see many people doing the job they dislike just because they think they don't have any other choice or they believe that it is too late to change. So, what is the solution to this dilemma? Is there any easy way where a person can figure out what is their real passion or which dream is worth chasing? The simple answer is, NO.

For most people, there is no easy way to find out what is our real passion or which dream we really want to chase. Some people figure out very early in their lives what they want to become and dedicate all their attention and efforts towards that pursuit. They do not care about success or failure as the journey to chase that target itself is fulfilling for them. This is great if it happens. If the journey itself is rewarding and enjoyable then who cares what is the ultimate result. Success is a bonus but not a reward in itself for them. But what if we do not know? Then, we need to take a more analytical approach. First, look carefully at your skillset, things at which you are good, things which you can learn easily and perform well. This is important to know because everybody might want to become an actor or a  football or basketball player, but everybody is not good at it. If we do not have the skills to perform a task or are not willing to put enough effort into learning it then there is no point in dreaming about it. Another important thing to remember is, that just dreams or passion is not enough, it requires tremendous hard work and commitment to achieve something great no matter how passionate you are about that thing. There is no substitute for hard work.

Another thing one can do is to ask for advice. Talk with people who you think understand you and care about you. Ask them what they think might be a good profession for you, seek opinions from multiple reliable sources to get a diverse opinion, and then try to decide. Keep in mind that all this does not guarantee that you will find a cause to which you will stick for the rest of your life. Sometimes we like something but over time lose interest. We might feel that the field which we chose is not interesting anymore or we are interested in something else. If this happens, we should not hesitate to make efforts to change. It might be tough or require a significant amount of effort and involve many challenges but as I said before, such a rewarding journey might be a worthy endeavor. No matter what we decide to do, we should be able to enjoy it, and we should feel excited about it. Of course, there are going to be days where we will feel lazy, bored, and frustrated, it is a part of every profession, but in general, we should feel good about our profession. We should feel excited about going to work. We should not be dragging ourselves to work every day. We spend quite a significant portion of our lives performing in our profession, so why not have fun while working. This will not only add happiness to our personal lives but also improve our professional lives. It is true that finding our passion and sticking to it is not easy, but it is not as difficult as it sounds, just give it a try.

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Friday, July 4, 2014

No one can have it all

In her recent interview, PepsiCo CEO Indra K Nooyi said "Women cannot have it all".  Actually, I don't know what she means by particularly mentioning women in this statement. Is she referring to work-family life balance? Did she mean that women with successful careers won't be considered as good wives or mothers? Or was she talking about the guilt factor that they cannot pay enough attention to their family, which troubles many women who work? Actually, who can have it all? Can men have it all? Can rich people have it all? Doesn't each one of us have to sacrifice something to get something in our life? 

In her interview, she also expressed some instances in her life when she felt that she was not being a good parent. She specifically mentioned her inability to attend coffee sessions which her daughter's school has especially for working women. I wonder if that school had similar coffee sessions for working dads? If not, why? If yes, then how many dads felt guilty for not attending it? Did she feel more guilty because as a woman and mother, she felt it was her duty (compared to her husband's) to attend these functions and cater to her kid's parenting needs? If this is so, then this begs the question of why it is expected only for moms to be more available for their kids, why can't dads be a primary caretaker parent? As a society aren't we mature enough to understand that parenting is not a gender-specific job. If a mom can be a CEO then dad can definitely attend to kid's needs. 

Another point that is worth considering is, why she felt guilty? She is a successful professional who achieved very commendable success in her professional field. Is she worried that as she is a woman people might judge her differently as a parent and will question her commitment towards her family because of her professional success? Isn't it common to feel guilty for not attending your child's school function or performance no matter whether you are a dad or a mom? Why does a working mom feel more guilty about these things compared to a working dad? The standards would be the same for both genders, one should not assume that men don't feel the same attachment towards their children as women feel, or that dads cannot take care of their kids as well as moms can. 

The truth is we all make some sacrifice in our lives for various reasons. We all get judged by society or by our friends and family in some way. There is always something that we miss, we always choose what we think is most important at that moment in life. Those choices can be right or wrong in retrospect, but we all make them thinking that we are making the right choice. Different people prioritize things differently, something that is important to me may not be important to someone else. Actually, no one can have it all. It doesn't matter whether women or men they all gain some things and lose some things during their personal and professional life. It is unfair to say that only women can't have it all. They are conditioned to feel more guilty compared to men and this discourages some women from committing fully to their professional life, but most men don't think twice before doing this. May be intention of Indra Nooyi was good but her statement conveys a wrong message. Choose the path that suits you the best, give your best effort, and then enjoy the journey, that's what matters the most. Men or women, no one can have it all, and like men women should not feel bad or guilty about it.

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