Our worry chambers

We all worry. It is common for humans to worry about various things. No one teaches us how and why to worry, we pick up this habit from our surroundings and make it our own. It is also true that as we age, we start worrying more, you will hardly see a kid worrying about what will happen tomorrow, but we can see many grownups, including teenagers who worry a lot about the future. Even though uncertainty is an inherent aspect of our lives and there is nothing much we can do about it, we worry about the uncertainty in our lives. Worrying is so pervasive and addictive that we also start worrying about why we worry so much. In reality, there is no escape from worrying after we cross a certain age, we create our own worry chambers and go there more often than we should. The key is not how to stop worrying, because we just can't, the key is how we make use of our worrying habit to our advantage. We must use our worry chambers to caution us rather than cripple us, the exercise is tricky, but we must learn to use our worry chambers as precautionary stops, this is the only way to use our worry chambers rather than getting stuck in them forever.

The actual problem is not that we worry, worrying itself is not bad, it helps us to be cautious, and it makes us collect more information before making any decision, so, in a way it helps us to mitigate potential risks. The problem is when we can't stop worrying and it cripples us, we can't take any action because we are stuck in our worry chambers. "Stop worrying" is useless advice to offer others and to receive it from someone. Everyone knows we should stop worrying, but we can't do it as it is ingrained in our thinking process. Telling someone to stop worrying is like telling them to stop thinking, it is not going to happen as long as their mind is in an active state. So, one thing is clear, worrying is here to stay with us as long as we can think. One solution to this is to make worrying our strength and not our weakness. If you know that you can't get rid of worrying, learn to walk with your worries, and make them your advisor friend, a friend who will tell you about dangers and pitfalls. But don't allow that friend to dictate and control every step, allow it to walk with you, but not for you. Allow it to offer advice, but don't allow it to dictate your path. Allow it to walk behind you, not ahead of you. Allow it to take part in your inner conversations, but don't allow it to dominate those conversations. Allow it to be with you, but don't allow it to be you. This way, we can make good use of our worrying instinct, it can help us rather than cripple us. I know it is easier said than done, but it is worth a shot. We need to devise our own methods to deal with our worries, what works for me may not work for you, and vice versa. But one thing is clear, in the current era of junk information (same as junk food), we need to take care of worry chambers and make sure that we don't get stuck in them. We should use our worries to get the information and move on. Remember, thinking is only the first step, if we want to achieve our goals we also need to take action, worrying is part of the thinking process not part of our action, let our worries stand by our side while we move on by taking action and making things happen. All the very best.  

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