At some point in our lives, we all get frustrated, feel dejected or depressed, and ask this question to ourselves, am I important to anyone? This question is then followed by many other related questions like, what is the purpose of my life? Why am I here? Why am I doing this? What's the purpose of doing all this hard work? Does anyone care about what I think or what I do? Is this all going to change anything? Questions like these are many but there is no single or easy answer to all these questions. Depending on the situation or phase of life one might think about any one of these questions more than others, but they all are somewhat related to each other. Once these questions dominate our minds, we start doubting ourselves, we question our abilities, we sometimes feel helpless, and we wonder why people don't understand us? Some people also feel dejected or depressed in such situations. Most of the time, these questions are the result of some not-so-favorable incidents happening around us. When our best efforts don't produce the desired results, we doubt our capabilities. When we face unwarranted personal criticism just for expressing our opinion, we doubt whether it is worth expressing them. Sometimes consistent personal attacks and inability to connect with others make people wonder about their self-worth. Such situations are not easy to handle for everyone, some people face so much trauma and agony that they take the extreme step like committing suicide because of such depressing feelings. Some could handle these feelings considering them as a part and parcel of daily life but for some, they get really serious and complicated, which is why it is necessary to address these questions seriously.
There is nothing wrong with these questions or feelings but none of this should result in chronic negativity, depression, or self-doubt. Many of us face this problem of self-worth sometime in our lives. Whatever work we do, no matter how small or big, it has some relevance and meaning. We all contribute towards our society in some way and every contribution is meaningful and important. When we realize that we all may not be the same, but we all are equal, then we learn to respect each other, and once we respect others, we also receive respect in return. None of us have answers to all the questions, therefore we all are here to learn from each other, and we should understand and acknowledge this fact. Accepting that we could be wrong helps us to listen to others. Once we start listening, we realize that there are many like us who face similar problems and doubts and we can help each other. Any problem we try to solve alone might look impossible to solve, but collectively we may be able to find some answers. Polarization and intolerance towards each other are major concerns today. When they cross certain limits, they take the form of racism, communal riots, wars, genocides, or some other form of violence. Our mind can be our best friend or worst enemy. It is not always possible to control or avoid negative feelings altogether, they are bound to come in some form, and we need to deal with them. We don't need anyone's validation to prove our self-worth, our own belief in ourselves is enough.
According to me, the correct answer to the question "Am I important" is; yes, I am important and I am significant and so is everyone else. We all are important so none of us should underestimate our powers and the significance of our role in this world. Sometimes we see the results of our efforts immediately and sometimes it takes time to see them. There are examples of many great people from history where their efforts showed desired results much later after their death but this didn't stop them from giving their best towards their goal. Things like self-respect, the ability to honor others, listen to other's views, and kindness automatically come to us once we realize that we all are equally important. The question "Am I important" doesn't intend to display the feeling that others are not important, rather this question arises in mind when we somehow start feeling that we are less important than others. So, it may not be easy to avoid such questions coming to our mind but we can try not to get affected negatively by it. This blog is just a small effort to provide a simple answer to this complicated question.
Thanks for reading and please share your views on this topic.
[Copyright: Vinay Thakur. Please contact the author for re-posting or publishing]
There is nothing wrong with these questions or feelings but none of this should result in chronic negativity, depression, or self-doubt. Many of us face this problem of self-worth sometime in our lives. Whatever work we do, no matter how small or big, it has some relevance and meaning. We all contribute towards our society in some way and every contribution is meaningful and important. When we realize that we all may not be the same, but we all are equal, then we learn to respect each other, and once we respect others, we also receive respect in return. None of us have answers to all the questions, therefore we all are here to learn from each other, and we should understand and acknowledge this fact. Accepting that we could be wrong helps us to listen to others. Once we start listening, we realize that there are many like us who face similar problems and doubts and we can help each other. Any problem we try to solve alone might look impossible to solve, but collectively we may be able to find some answers. Polarization and intolerance towards each other are major concerns today. When they cross certain limits, they take the form of racism, communal riots, wars, genocides, or some other form of violence. Our mind can be our best friend or worst enemy. It is not always possible to control or avoid negative feelings altogether, they are bound to come in some form, and we need to deal with them. We don't need anyone's validation to prove our self-worth, our own belief in ourselves is enough.
According to me, the correct answer to the question "Am I important" is; yes, I am important and I am significant and so is everyone else. We all are important so none of us should underestimate our powers and the significance of our role in this world. Sometimes we see the results of our efforts immediately and sometimes it takes time to see them. There are examples of many great people from history where their efforts showed desired results much later after their death but this didn't stop them from giving their best towards their goal. Things like self-respect, the ability to honor others, listen to other's views, and kindness automatically come to us once we realize that we all are equally important. The question "Am I important" doesn't intend to display the feeling that others are not important, rather this question arises in mind when we somehow start feeling that we are less important than others. So, it may not be easy to avoid such questions coming to our mind but we can try not to get affected negatively by it. This blog is just a small effort to provide a simple answer to this complicated question.
Thanks for reading and please share your views on this topic.
[Copyright: Vinay Thakur. Please contact the author for re-posting or publishing]
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