Thursday, April 24, 2025

Democratic Dictatorship: A New Kind of Dictatorship

It is said that democracy is a flawed concept, and it is true, it isn't perfect. It’s messy, slow, and full of disagreements - and that’s kind of the point. It’s supposed to be a system where everyone gets a say, where power is shared, and where people can hold their leaders accountable. Despite its flaws, democracy is still the best system we’ve come up with. That’s why most countries are proud to call themselves democratic. 

However, in reality, flawed democracy is further flawed by the elected representatives all over the world. More and more governments around the world are calling themselves democracies while acting more like dictatorships. In some places it is flawed to such an extent that many countries are now functioning like democratic dictatorships, that is, the governments are elected by some democratic process but once in power, they behave as if they can’t be questioned. They silence critics, weaken important institutions, and create a climate of fear. It’s not a full-blown dictatorship in the traditional sense - but it’s close. Welcome to the era of the democratic dictatorship.

In a real democracy, people should be able to speak out without fear. Protesting, writing, tweeting, organizing - these are basic rights. But in many places, speaking out has become dangerous. For example, take Russia. It holds elections, but opposition leaders are jailed or exiled. Alexei Navalny, one of President Putin’s most vocal critics, was imprisoned and later died in custody under suspicious circumstances. That’s not democracy - that’s intimidation. Even in countries that are known for being democratic, this trend is growing. In India, critics of the government - including journalists, students, and activists - have been arrested or harassed using vague laws meant for terrorism or sedition. Peaceful protests are often labeled as “anti-national.” And in the United States, while the democratic system is still strong, it hasn’t been immune. The attack on the Capitol on January 6, 2021, and the efforts to undermine trust in elections showed how fragile democracy can be. When leaders push misinformation and propaganda and treat dissent like betrayal, the foundations of democracy begin to crack.

A working democracy needs independent institutions: courts that can say “no” to the government and protect the oppressed, election commissions that play fair, and media that can investigate and criticize governments fearlessly. But in many countries, these institutions are being intimidated, cornered, taken over, or hollowed out. Sometimes, it’s not even about throwing people in jail - it’s about making them scared to speak up. Journalists face lawsuits, online abuse, or sudden tax investigations. Comedians and other artists face boycotts and their shows are canceled due to fear of retaliation by the government or government-backed organizations. Activists are watched. Regular citizens are afraid of posting political opinions online. This fear doesn’t look like the dictatorships of the past, but it’s just as effective at keeping people silent. Elections still happen in these places. But by the time people go to vote, the opposition has been weakened, the media is one-sided, and many voters don’t feel like they have a real choice. It’s democracy in name only.

What’s scary is how normal all of this is starting to feel. Because these governments still hold elections and fly the flag of democracy, people assume everything is fine. There are many who support these regimes as they feel it suits their agenda and this is not as bad as dictatorship or genocide. But a system where people are scared to speak, where institutions are controlled, and where criticism is punished — that’s not a real democracy. That’s a democratic dictatorship. Also, this isn’t a “left vs. right” issue. Authoritarian behavior can come from any political direction and there are ample examples to demonstrate this. Political ideology, party, or leader doesn't really matter, what matters is whether a government respects the rules of democracy - not just during elections, but every day. What matters is how the government treats dissent, how it protects the rights of all minorities, how independent are institutions, including all academic institutions, and how fearless are people who disagree with the government. Without fearless dissent, there is no democracy.

Also, democracy doesn’t protect itself. It needs us - the people - to keep it alive. That means staying well informed from different reliable sources without being siloed. Paying attention to how our leaders behave, not just what they say, especially for who we vote for. Speaking up when something feels wrong, not only against our political or ideological opponents but also against people who we support. Supporting free media, independent courts, and strong public institutions. And yes - voting in every election. The biggest threat to democracy today isn’t a sudden coup or a violent takeover, it’s a slow erosion of personal rights by the governments with the open support of some economically powerful people using a very potent tool, social media. It’s the idea that as long as we vote, everything’s fine - even when freedoms are disappearing and fear is spreading. A true democracy is more than just elections and voting. It’s about accountability, fairness, and the freedom to disagree without being fearful of retaliation by the government. And if we’re not careful, we could lose it without even realizing it.

Thank you for reading, and please share your views on this topic. 

© Vinay Thakur, All rights reserved. Vinay can be reached at thevinay2022@gmail.com  

Monday, April 7, 2025

Bridging Differences: Our Journey of Love and Acceptance in a Polarized World

Every couple has their own story—a journey that takes them from acquaintances to lovers, through the joys and struggles of building a family, and ultimately towards a deeper understanding of each other including the similarities and deep differences. Reena and I are no different, we have been on an amazing journey for the last 27 years. One of the most significant aspects of this journey is our journey on the path of acceptance. Many couples share common ground in aspects like religion, culture, nationality, and personal and political beliefs, making their journey of togetherness relatively smoother. But for some, like Reena and me, our differences far outweigh our similarities. And yet, despite these differences, we have built a relationship grounded in love, mutual respect, and unwavering support for each other. Our journey is one of acceptance, a story that holds particular relevance in today's increasingly polarized society.

There are countless ways in which Reena and I are different. To begin with, ours was an arranged marriage—we hardly knew each other before deciding to embark on this lifelong partnership. Our first meeting took place in her family home, under the watchful eyes of relatives, in a setting that left little room for deep, personal connection. Yet, despite the absence of a traditional courtship, we built a bond that grew stronger over time. Our differences, rather than dividing us, became opportunities for growth and understanding. Our differences helped both of us to understand each other more than our similarities.

One of the most fundamental disparities between us lies in our views on religion. Over time, I moved away from religious beliefs and practices, while Reena remained steadfast in her faith. It is not uncommon for interfaith couples to navigate such differences, but in our case, it was not a matter of different faiths—it was the coexistence of faith and skepticism under one roof. While I have little interest in rituals and customs, Reena finds solace in them. While I have no respect for customs that I believe are deeply patriarchal and misogynistic, Reena finds peace and happiness in some of them. Over the years, rather than allowing these differences to create irreconcilable rifts, we have learned to accommodate each other’s perspectives. She has made me more tolerant of certain aspects of religion, and I have helped her recognize the historical and systemic issues within religious institutions, particularly in relation to patriarchy and gender inequality.

I highlight this aspect of our relationship because religious and ideological differences are becoming flashpoints of division in our world today. Hate-based politics is thriving, with leaders deliberately stoking fear and resentment to gain power. People are increasingly retreating into ideological camps, unwilling to engage with those who think differently. This polarization is not limited to religion—it extends to politics, social issues, and even personal values. It is disheartening to witness how societies that have made incredible advancements in knowledge and understanding are regressing into division and hostility. It is sad to see that rather than working towards a common goal people are trying to score brownie points over each other. It is sad to see that rather than accepting our differences and moving on with our similarities, people are more interested in vilifying each other and playing the blame game. 

However, acceptance does not mean blind agreement or passive tolerance. True acceptance lies in acknowledging our differences while recognizing the necessity of working together. It means allowing space for disagreement, engaging in meaningful dialogue, and striving to understand opposing viewpoints rather than dismissing them outright. It means choosing to coexist and build something greater, despite unresolved differences. Reena and I did not arrive at this understanding through a single, profound revelation. There was no grand epiphany—just a series of everyday moments where we chose to support rather than resist, to listen rather than argue to prove each other wrong and to love rather than alienate. If we, as individuals with starkly different beliefs and outlooks, can create a life together rooted in compassion, then surely society at large can do the same.

I hope our journey serves as a reminder that differences will always exist, but they should never overshadow our shared humanity. In a world where division is increasingly the norm, choosing acceptance and cooperation is not just an act of love—it is an act of defiance against the forces that seek to divide us. Let us all strive to build something beautiful together, filled with understanding, love, compassion, and yes, our differences. Our differences will stay but so should our love, understanding, and compassion.

Thank you for reading and please share your views about your journey of acceptance. 

*Vinay can be reached at thevinay2022@gmail.com