Argument vs. Discussion

Debates, discussions, and arguments are the ways by which any democratic and progressive society shares its ideas and views about various issues. These are the ways that we all use to exchange our thoughts, ideas, and concerns with each other. The main aim of these interactions is to try to share and understand each other's point of view. Debates normally happen in a very formal setting, but discussions and arguments are more informal, so informal that they can be a part of any social or family gathering. I am sure each one of us can relate to the fact that arguments and discussions have become such an integral part of our personal and professional lives we do not even realize how often we engage in such exchanges. With the invention and immense popularity of social media we are not even restricted by geographical boundaries, we can discuss or argue with anyone, anytime, from anywhere in the world. At the same time, with the internet, we have instant access to a vast amount of information, it is entirely up to us how much information we can consume. However, there is one question we need to ask, did all this improve the quality of our interactions with each other? No doubt, all the progress in technology did improve the number of our interactions. We do interact very often and with many more people, it was physically impossible without social media to keep in touch with so many people at the same time, that hurdle got removed, thanks to various social media platforms. But what about the quality of our interactions? Do we understand each other better? Are we more tolerant of each other's views? Do we have more consensus about certain political or social issues? OR, do we argue unnecessarily? Are we more polarized than ever? Do we only oppose each other on partisan lines but more venomously? Are we more segregated than united? I am sure if each one of us honestly asks these questions to ourselves, and seek honest answers, we might be able to improve the quality of our interactions and take full advantage of this unique opportunity provided to all of us by this amazing technological revolution for the betterment of our society.

Arguments and discussions are fundamental parts of any democratic society, they both serve unique purposes. Arguments are normally about asserting our own point and rebutting the other side's arguments, there is a confrontational premise from the beginning, both parties know that there is a difference of opinion and they are on opposite sides (debate is one such example of an argument is a very formal setting). However, the discussion is supposed to be more friendly and conducive where we try to understand other's points of view and explain our side to them. Both of them involve the give and take of thoughts, but the intentions and styles are different. In an argument we want the other side to accept that our point is more valid than their own point. However, in the discussion, the aim is not to convince but to understand each other, the intention behind the discussion is to explain our side and try to understand what's the logic and rationale behind the other side's views on the same topic. Discussions can be more useful in social settings than arguments to understand different views about the same topic. We first need to understand each other before we start arguing to convince each other who is right. Both arguments and discussions require certain skills, but the problem is that we all think that we have those skills and it's the other person who doesn't know how to argue or discuss. Let's reflect on our own behavior and try to discuss more and argue less. After all, if we all claim that we want to do something better for humanity then how come our common goals cannot even allow us to have a civilized discussion about any issue, no matter how sensitive that issue is.

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