Friday, June 14, 2013

Rape is never the victim's fault.

Recently I saw this very realistic post on my Facebook wall shared by one of my friend which conveys a very important message "Rape is never victim's fault". We all read many posts or articles where many people accuse victim after rape or any sexual assault, they question victim's behavior, dressing, choice of friends and many other things which according to them encouraged other person to sexually assault the victim. Most these comments and objections try to put the entire blame of incident on shoulders of victim and draw some ridiculous conclusion that victim asked for it and some how she got what she deserved. Forget about insensitive nature of all these comments that's not what is important here but the attempt to put all blame on victim and indirectly sympathize with perpetrator of crime bothers me a lot. 

This picture below speaks for itself, no need to explain anything, women have total right to choose what they want to wear (same choice which most cultures and societies offer to men). There is heavy commercialization of human body in advertising world but that's true for both the genders but somehow women get criticized more for exposure compared to men, it's very clear that people (mostly men) are not very comfortable with exposed women body and they try to put blame of their weakness on women in the name of culture, tradition or religion (they use whatever which can help them in this). They are expected to cover their body and show some decency, follow some rules which are supposed to help men to control their sexual desires, so somehow they think that responsibility of keeping man's sexual desire under control lies on women.
The accusation that by dressing in particular way or by their behavior or choice of friends or partners in relationship they ask or invite sexual assault is totally baseless and ridiculous according to me. Nothing, absolutely nothing gives anybody license to sexually harass anyone based on their appearance or behavior or anything. By putting entire blame on victim these people make that victim feel inferior, guilty and worthless which is very dangerous and isolated victims sometimes push them to take extreme step of ending their life (suicide, and then same people blame them for being weak). Victim of any crime needs all support and help society can offer to him/her and victims of sexual harassment like rape need even more support because not only their body but also minds are hurt and it's not easy to heal these type of injuries without support from near and dear ones. Because of social pressure and tremendous stigma attached with such crimes sometimes even near and dear ones hesitate to support victim the way they should. We need to confront this mentality with full force, these people if allow to become successful will bring back the era of human civilization where women were forced to cover themselves (not by choice but by force) and follow all rules and regulations imposed on them by male dominated society (these rules are totally one sided and gender biased), I don't think many of us want that era back. We need to make one this clear to these people, they need to stop blaming victim, I can't say that there are no fake rape accusations or some people don't misuse sexual harassment laws to their advantage but these type of cases are not very common and we should not generalize things based on few isolated incidents.

Sexual harassment is very serious and complicated issue, treating it in such a casual way is not the proper way to handle it. People need to get educated about this issue, both men and women need to be educated about their rights and responsibilities, I know that we can not eradicate this problem completely but together at least we can help the victims to deal with their pain and tackle this problem more efficient and proper way.

Thanks for reading and please share your views on this topic. 

(Copyright for text: Vinay Thakur. Please contact the author for re-posting or publishing) 

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